Breaking Free v.4 {Don’t blame yourself}

{found here}

I’ll speak for myself when writing this post. I’ve recently read a chapter in Breaking Free that spoke wonders to me. Often times I blame my anger/quick temper/impatience/etc. on my personality. I say “That’s just who I am and it’s something I gotta work on.” I can see similarities between me and my dad on many of these aspects. I’ve always thought it was just who we were. It’s in our blood. I now realize these negatives aspects aren’t a part of me rather they are leaches that I’ve allowed to latch onto me and suck the life out of me. In chapter 13 of Breaking Free, Beth begins talking about “Ancient Ruins”. She is referring to generational baggage. I was kind of confused by what she meant at first, but the more I read the clearer it became to me.

It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1

I’ll give you an example.

I have a quick temper. Anyone who knows anything about me and my family can vouch for that. My mom often jokes that it’s because I am a Scorpio just like my dad and grandpa. She always tells me “I’m feeling that sting!” It’s funny to me, but I realize now why I have that issue. My dad grew up watching his father get angry and act on it in a negative way. My dad took on that trait because that’s what he saw. That’s how he knew to react in situations. Not necessarily his fault. I then grew up watching my dad react that way. When my dad would erupt over little things I never thought anything of it because that’s what I always knew. It was weird to me when our family would sit down to have a talk. It usually meant something terrible had happened . I laugh when I’m around a family that can sit down and talk about a situation and it be resolved from that even-killed chat. We yell at each other even if we’re not angry, it’s just what we do. So you can see how a negative trait pattern can happen. It’s passed down through generations.

So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed. John 8:36

It’s my job now to change that. Let me correct myself, it’s my job to give it God so that He can change it. If it doesn’t get changed now then my children will be affected by it one day. And so on. Now just because there is negative in every family doesn’t mean we should dishonor our physical lineage. Even Christ had negative people in His lineage. For example, Rahab the prostitute and King David who lusted after Batsheva and then murdered Uriah. There’s always a negative bean in every batch. It’s our choice to change that and turn it around so that is doesn’t get passed on to the next generation.

They sow the wind and reap the whirlwind… Hosea 8:7

What will you do to change your future family?

{check out those 90s bangs and backwards jean skort. Oh yeah}

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